Recipes for Love

Karen and Toby. Two of the most loving people you could ever meet.

I went home to Ohio recently to watch the Total Eclipse with Nathan, Natalie, Connie, and Judy. It was such a great trip. It was filled with love! I also visited with some friends. While visiting with Toby and Karen we had a discussion about love. It got me thinking about it. Toby is a chef and Karen is a psychologist. During our discussion, we were talking about the best way to live a life, and we all agreed that living life with love was the best way. Then Toby offered up a thought that I was intrigued and impressed by. He said something to the effect of "Love is such a simple recipe, we just shouldn't have too many cooks in the kitchen". As I thought about that statement, it really struck me how right he is! Love truly is a simple recipe. And living life with love is the best. Just because it is such a simple recipe, doesn't mean there aren't a lot of different kinds, forms, or ingredients to it. To me, love has many ingredients to its recipe. You can use any or all of your ingredients as YOU deem fit. It is just like chili, if I may use food as an analogy. If you ask 5 people about their recipe for chili, they will surely give you 5 different ways with various ingredients. But to them, their recipe is simple. The common ingredient would be some sort of chili. Whether it be a chili powder or chili pepper. If you ask 5 people about their recipe for love, they will surely give you 5 different ways with various ingredients. We can discuss what those "ingredients" should be ad nauseum, but my humble opinion is that every recipe for love should have heart. I also believe every form of love should have kindness. That is what makes it so simple! Heart and kindness. Those are two simple ingredients. Then you can add other ingredients that make it your own. Maybe you like things spicy? Maybe sweet? Maybe sweet AND spicy? I believe as long as it comes from the heart and you mix in kindness, you will have a great recipe.  

Pete and Jack. A father and son.

Also, there are all kinds of love. There is a love between Father and Son. Mother and Daughter. Mother and Son. Father and Daughter. Cousins. Friends. And so on and so on. They all have different ingredients in their recipes, that is a guarantee! I still believe each of those recipes should have heart and kindness in them. A parent and child recipe might have an ingredient that makes their love tough. As long as that toughness includes heart and kindness, it is all good I believe. Cousins might have silliness in their recipe. Friends might have laughter or hugs. The ingredients for a recipe of love are countless. 

In the photo above, Pete is making a speech about his son Jack. Jack had his confirmation in his catholic church that night. You could see the love in Pete's face and hear them in his words. You could see the love Jack felt from his father, and from the God he believes in. It was incredible to witness. I am not here to persuade anyone to love God or anyone else you don't believe in. Love God, Mohammed, Buddha, Jesus, Spirits, or any other entity that you deem worthy. It is YOUR love that should shine in my opinion. As long it has heart and kindness, it should be a great love. This goes back to "not having too many cooks in the kitchen". From what I can tell, all religions and good-hearted belief systems are based on the principles of love. Each religion and good-hearted belief system has its own ingredients. I say search for the ingredients and people that speak to your heart. Then add what ingredients you want to the recipe to make it your own. Don't get muddled by too many "cooks" in your kitchen. Follow your heart, with some guidance from friends and family, and your path will surely lead to love and happiness.

Cousins Beatrice and Addie, with Scarlett in the backdrop.

A love between cousins is usually fun. Addie and Beatrice show this all the time. Every time I see them, they are laughing and playing together. Enjoying each other's personalities and quirks to the fullest! Sometimes they are a blur, as you can see in the photo. Ha. Scarlett is Beatrice's dog. A love between pet and owner is special. I know I have loved every one of my pets. And I have loved them differently with different ingredients. I have always loved them with all my heart and with kindness! I am sure Beatrice and her family do the same with Scarlett.

Three clowns pretending to watch a Total Eclipse :0)

Nathan, Me, and Natalie. We share a strong love!

One of my personal favorite recipes is the one I share with my nephew and niece. Nathan and Natalie are two of my favorite humans on Earth. To witness the Total Solar Eclipse with them and see their reactions to such an incredible event did my heart good. We are bonded even more than ever. Our recipe includes laughter, heart, kindness, and hugs. They give the best hugs! They humor me with my love of clowning, and that makes me love them all the more! If that is even truly possible? They are such wonderful, caring, smart, fun, and beautiful humans! I will love them until the end of time. We have never discussed ingredients for their own recipes, but I am quite certain that theirs have some unique ingredients, with heart and kindness as their staples. I have seen their kindness and heartfelt acts firsthand. I learn from them, just by watching them. We can all learn more about love by watching the people around us. Especially ones that exhibit the best qualities in life. 

Connie and I have a great recipe ourselves!!

The love between a woman and a man can be incredible. So can a love between a man and a man, or a woman and a woman. Connie and I have our own recipe, and I think it is one of the best recipes out there. We use a lot of different "ingredients". Every day we use different ingredients. Our ingredients include laughter, trust, play, respect, heart, courage, kindness, adventure, etc. I honestly can't list all of our ingredients because there are so many, and they are forever changing. Some days we use all of the ingredients in our spice cabinet. Some days we only use 2 or 3. You truly don't need a lot of ingredients for your recipe. Again, I believe heart and kindness should be there. You can add anything else you want to make it your own recipe. Some of the best chili recipes only have 3 ingredients. Or any other dishes you want to cook up. You can also relate it to music if that helps. 3 chords and the truth make for great songs. 3 ingredients and the truth can make a great recipe for love in my opinion! Do you agree? 

Again, I am not here to persuade you into any certain "kind" of love. All love is great in my opinion. I just use certain examples to express my thoughts on the wholeness and totality of love in this world. This is how life should be lived on Earth. Just like the Total Eclipse we just witnessed, with totality comes a ring of light around the edges. This ring of light is the outer atmosphere of the sun. It is only visible during a total solar eclipse. It is called the sun's corona. So go out there and use your totality of love to create your own ring of light! Are you with me? 

     Now Go Out and Hug Someone with Abundant Love!!!

Burn, Prairie Burn

Connie and Katie watch the burn from the safety of our tree line

We just had our prairie burned. It was a prescribed burn, and we hired an experienced professional crew to do it for us. Prescribed burns are essential to native plants in a prairie, so much so that the government gives grant money to help with the cost. We were fortunate to receive such help. I imagine there are a lot of questions out there about the purpose of a prescribed burn. I had so many questions for Katie when I first started learning about burns, and I still have questions. It is all fascinating to me. There are 6 basic questions in life. Who, What, When, Where, Why, and How. I will try to answer those questions as they relate to a prairie burn to the best of my knowledge here. I will get some help from the internet and from Katie of course. If you have questions, contact your local conservation group, read up on it, ask me or Katie, or do your own research online. There is a plethora of info about it. 

They started on our back prairie. So, this is the start of the entire burn process. Exciting!!!

Let's start with the Why. Why do, and why should we burn prairies? There are a lot of detailed answers that can go into the Why. I will keep it somewhat short and simple for two reasons. I don't truly know a lot of the information, so I don't want to mislead anyone. Plus, I don't want you to get bored reading my blog. It would take pages and pages to give all the Whys. The basic reasons we burn a prairie on purpose are two-fold. First, fire helps the soil to reset which returns essential nutrients into it. In other words, fire burns thatch. Thatch consists of dead plant material. By burning thatch, the nutrients from it go back into the soil to be reused by living, growing plants. On a side note, burning thatch also reduces the risk of an uncontrolled fire. Second, it can kill off invasive and non-native plants that can take over a prairie. By killing the "unwanted" plants, we allow the native plants to recapture their territory and soil, so to speak. A prairie will thrive better and be more beneficial to the local ecosystem if we help the native plants do better. With more native species in the prairie, the pollinators and grassland birds will flourish easier.

A crew member setting the first fire line

A water "truck" patrols the fire to make sure it doesn't get out of hand.

The next question would be How do you burn a prairie. The short answer is CAREFULLY, very carefully. Ha. Seriously, you start by hiring a professional crew that does this for a living. They will bring a crew of people for the process. Depending on the size of the burn, it can be a few people to several people. Our burn had a 6-person crew. 2 people walked around with torches to get the fire started. 2 people drove around in all-terrain vehicles with water and hose attached to keep the fire from going where it shouldn't. The last 2 people roamed around and helped to survey and keep an eye on things. Every member of the crew had a walkie-talkie to allow them to communicate well. 1 person is designated the Burn Boss. The Burn Boss decides on the best course of action depending on wind direction, humidity level, and size of the prairie. Our prairie was burned in 4 different sections essentially. The back prairie was divided into 2 and the front prairie was divided into 2. It took about an hour or so to burn the back half and another hour or so to burn the front half. With some time in between to check on smolderings, recheck wind status, and make sure everyone was ready and in place. It was a fascinating process to watch, and the end result was just as fascinating!

Fire and Smoke

The first half of the back prairie is almost done.

The third question is Where? That can be an interesting question actually. The really short answer is wherever there is a prairie that has invasive plants or just needs its soil reset for better nutrients. The where has to be agreed upon of course by the people burning and whomever owns the land. Whether that be a homeowner like us. A foundation like The Leopold Foundation. Or the Parks and Recs folks. Our prairie desperately needed to be burned because it was planted almost 10 years ago, and the previous owner did nothing to maintain it. Invasive and non-native plants were growing amuck, while native plants were dwindling. This all affects the ecosystem of the area. As I mentioned before the pollinators and grassland birds are affected, and they are essential to the planet as a whole! 

A nice front porch view. I felt 100% safe here.

The fourth question is When? This might be the trickiest and most complex answer with multiple levels to it. When can mean what time of year? Or what time of day? Or when in general, for conditions? Let's start with the basics first. What time of year? The answer is either Fall or Spring. Fall and Spring offer the best weather conditions such as proper winds, humidity level, and temps. They are also the times of year for planting. Some flowers grow better when planted in Fall and some in Spring. I don't know all the specifics of that, but that is the general reason they burn in Spring or Fall. What time of day? They can burn ANY time of day, it just depends on the forecast for any specific day. Winds should be between 5 and 15mph. Depending on the goal of the burn process, they may want to wait til the winds are coming from a certain direction like South, or West? The humidity level should be close to 40%. Too dry and it is too dangerous. Too wet and it will be too difficult. The temperatures should be between 40 and 60 ideally. For our burn the winds were 8 to 10mph from the Southeast. Humidity was around 48%. Temps were in the low 50s. Not perfect, but pretty close. That is the very basics of when to burn. Trust me, that is the VERY BASICS. Again, to learn more ask a conservationist, or research online, etc. 

The crew working near our fire pit. No pit was needed today! :0)

The 5th question is Who? Well, I already answered that really. Who should definitely be a professional crew. It should be done in agreement with whoever owns the land. And whoever owns the land should be open and agreeable to it, because it is for the good of their land and the ecosystem of the planet as a whole. 

The front portion is almost done, with smoldering brush piles we couldn't burn.

The final question is What. Well of course I answered that already also. What you should burn is your prairie! Our prairie looks so cool after the burn, in my opinion. And I am excited about watching the regrowth! I invite everyone to come to Ugly Biscuits to see it for yourselves. Our prairie was already beautiful, and now with the proper land management plan, it should become more and more beautiful!

3 Generations out broadcasting seeds together! 💙💚💛💜💗

After the burn is over, you can broadcast seeds right away or wait a few days. It is best to do it when you know it will rain afterwards as this helps the seeds to soak into the soil better. Judy, Connie, and Katie did just that and we got a nice light rain overnight! We will broadcast more seeds over the next few weeks and our native flowers and grasses should be in full bloom come June or July! I can't wait!

So come lay in our hammocks and watch the regrowth!

For those of you who want to see ALL of the photos I took of the burn day, see the link below. I think they are all great personally :0). But I will warn you, there is a lot!

 

                          https://photos.app.goo.gl/7ZNp9ktb12udaAfZ6

Now Go Out and Hug a Conservationist Today!!